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6 Reasons You Experience Retroactive Jealousy

6 Reasons You Experience Retroactive Jealousy

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Jul 19, 2025
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Many people struggle with retroactive jealousy, which is when you are jealous of a partner’s past romantic or sexual partners. Some of the most common manifestations of this including looking your partner’s ex-partners up on social media, comparing yourself or internally “competing” constantly with an ex (even in this case to a dead partner), constantly asking your partner about their prior relationship and what was better/worse in that relationship versus yours, and even snooping through your partner’s emails/texts to find old correspondence with their ex. What are some reasons people experience retroactive jealousy?

1. Low self-esteem. If you feel that you are not attractive or lovable, you likely do not understand why their partner is with you.

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