How To Convince Your Partner To Seek Therapy For Past Sexual Trauma

Past abuse can be worked through... but not if you and your partner are both pretending it's not a problem.

Reader Supportive Partner writes,

I’ve read your article on partners understanding your sexual abuse history and thought I’d take the liberty to ask for your advice. My girlfriend was physically abused by her mother, raped by her first boyfriend and based on her behavior I am assuming also sexually abused as a child/teen by her father. She has told me about her mother beating her and her first boyfriend forcing himself on her but she has never talked about the other abuse apart from mentioning that she has also been sexually abused over years during an argument we had. The past few months I thought about how to approach the topic with her and wanting to ask her to consider going to a therapist.