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Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning
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Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning

This leads to bitterness and resentment in your relationship, not to mention exhaustion.

Today on The Dr Psych Mom Show, I address overfunctioning, which is when you do more than everyone else around you, which in turn leads to others underfunctioning. Does this sound like you?

  • Without me, nobody would survive!

  • My spouse/kids can’t do anything for themselves!

  • Nobody would take care of any of my responsibilities even if I got sick!

  • Nobody could ever do what I do around the house!

Nobody deserves to feel stuck on the hamster wheel of overfunctioning! It leads to bitterness and resentment in your relationship, not to mention exhaustion. This episode helps you identify overfunctioning, recognize how it develops and why, and think differently about whether it’s really necessary.

To learn more about overfunctioning, read ⁠this⁠. And the classic book on codependency and why you may overfunction is ⁠Codependent No More⁠!

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