When Your Husband Is The Lower Libido Partner

When women are rejected by their partners for sex or physical affection, they are too ashamed to generally share this with anyone aside from their therapist. Here's why.

About a third of my clients with sex drive disparities are in the situation where the woman wants more sex than the man. This large number flies in the face of the common (but inaccurate) assumption, derived from popular media, that men are constantly chasing women for sex. When women are the lower libido partner, this is thought to be so unusual as to be shameful. This unfortunately means that many women in this position don’t tell friends, and cut themselves off from potential support and empathy from friends who may actually be in the same position. This is why in some ways, it is harder to be a rejected woman than a rejected man, because you think you are a freak outlier rather than in a more normative (although still very painful) situation.